The Coaching HER® Journal

Great Coaches Don’t Just Teach the Game — They Change Lives

Written by By The Coaching HER® Team | Oct 2025

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October is a month to celebrate the coaches who make sport better for girls and women. On and off the field, coaches are more than teachers of drills and plays, they are mentors, motivators, and role models. Their impact can change the way girls see themselves in sport and in life.

 

At the same time, International Day of the Girl reminds us that every girl deserves the chance to play, lead, and belong. Together, these moments highlight the importance of coaches who model inclusion, create safe environments, and open pathways for girls to grow into athletes, leaders, and confident young women.

 

Why Coaches Matter

The numbers speak volumes. Research shows that negative coaching experiences are one of the primary reasons girls leave sport—and girls are more likely than boys to cite coaching problems as the cause of dropping out (Keathley et al., 2013). When girls feel supported and valued by their coaches, they are more likely to thrive and stay in sport.

This October, we celebrate the coaches who are changing the game and we invite every coach, parent, and leader to join them. Coaching HER®’s Supporting Girls’ Needs module offers practical, evidence-based strategies to help you meet girls’ core psychological needs and ensure every athlete feels cared for, competent, and has choices.

A Call to Leaders and Parents

Coaches don’t do this work alone. Leaders can invest in training and resources that help every coach meet girls’ needs for care, competence, and choice. Parents too play a role by supporting coaches who emphasize joy, mastery, and good sport behavior over pressure or comparison.

The 3C Formula: Care, Competence, and Choice

Coaching HER®, is founded on research which states that meeting and supporting three core psychological needs help keep girls engaged in sport:

  • Care — Girls need to belong, and feel seen, supported, and valued as
  • Competence — Girls need opportunities to develop skills and experience success that builds confidence.
  • Choice — Girls need a voice in shaping their sport experience, from practice roles to team

Simple Everyday Actions to Apply the 3C Formula

  • Check in with players about how they are feeling, on and off the
  • Highlight effort, improvement, and teamwork, not just
  • Give girls opportunities to lead drills, share input, and make
  • Create a team culture where every girl feels welcome, respected, and safe

When coaches meet girls’ 3C needs, they do more than keep girls on the roster. They create environments where girls flourish. Take the FM6 Supporting Girls’ Needs today and discover how you can be the reason a girl stays in sport, grows in confidence, and sees herself as a leader.

These actions send a powerful message: you belong here, your voice matters, and your growth matters.

References

  • Aspen Institute Project Play (2020). Stay of Play Report
  • Keathley, K., Himelein, M.J., & Srigley, G. (2013). Youth soccer participation and withdrawal: Gender similarities and differences. Journal of Sport Behavior, 36(2), 171-188.
  • Reynolds, A .J., & McDonough, H. (2015). Moderated and mediated effects of coach autonomy support, coach involvement, and psychological need satisfaction on motivation in youth soccer. The Sport Psychologist, 29, 51-61.
  • Wekesser, M., Harris, B. S., Langdon, J., & Wilson, C. H. (2021). Coaches’ impact on youth athletes’ intentions to continue sport participation: The mediational influence of the coach–athlete relationship. International Journal of Sports Science & Coaching, 16(3), 490-499. https://doi.org/10.1177/1747954121991817

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