The season starts long before the first practice; the decisions you make this summer will determine whether she feels expected or accommodated, known or anonymous, confident or anxious the moment she walks through the door.
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Only 5% of kids playing for trained coaches quit. For untrained coaches, it’s 26%. Aspen Institute, 2015 |
That gap isn’t about tactics or game plans. It’s about the environment you intentionally create long before the first practice.
She stays because of you. 80% of girls say a positive coach relationship is a top reason they keep playing (Aspen Institute Project Play, 2020). Girls who feel heard by their coaches are 2.5× more likely to stay in sport. That relationship doesn’t start at the first drill. It starts with whether she feels like you see her as a person, not just a roster spot.
She leaves because of her body. 45% of girls drop out because of low body confidence, and 1 in 2 girls who quit were criticized about their body type (Body Confident Sport, 2023; 2026). The environment you create around body image, the language you use, the uniforms you provide, and the comments you allow, is the difference between a girl who stays and one who quietly disappears.
She thrives because of culture. Girls are motivated by fun (81%) and improving skills (66%), not trophies (Aspen Institute, 2021). 70% of girls say friendships and team connections are why they stay (Women’s Sports Foundation, 2020). Joy and belonging aren’t bonuses, they're the infrastructure of retention.
If you completed the Coaching HER® June Season Debrief Checklist, you already know where your gaps are. Maybe it was the social environment, you realized you knew your athletes’ stats but not their lives. Maybe it was the physical environment, body talk went unchecked, or the gear wasn’t designed with her in mind. Maybe it was the emotional environment, you rewarded winning more than effort or growth.
The question now isn’t whether those gaps matter. The research has answered that. The question is what actions will be taken to address those gaps before the season starts.
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THE BOTTOM LINE Organizations with trained coaches see 40% higher retention among girls (Women’s Sports Foundation, 2022). By age 14, girls drop out at twice the rate of boys. The ones who stay are the ones who had a coach who planned for them. Be that coach. |
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YOUR NEXT STEP Download the Coaching HER® Coach’s Season Goal Sheet. It guides you from end-of-season reflection to three specific goals for the fall, helping you identify the athlete outcome you want to create, the indicators that will show progress, and the actions that will bring it to life. Focus first on the actions. Consistent behaviors create meaningful change. |
References
Aspen Institute. (2015). Sport for All, Play for Life.
Aspen Institute. (2021). Sport for All, Play for Life: Playbook to Develop Every Student.
Aspen Institute Project Play. (2020).
Body Confident Sport. (2023; 2026).
Women’s Sports Foundation. (2019; 2020; 2022).